As boys, we know that women can be complicated and difficult. Keep in mind that most women are not out to play, and are just good, good intentions girls. However, many young people know all too well that girls are players out there. Let's say you meet someone new, and things are looking good. E 'smart, funny, sexy and seems like a great catch. However, there is a strange nagging feeling that I can not put my finger on it. Something just does not seem right. Perhaps some of his stories do not seem to add up, and there was a little 'suspicious behavior. In relationships, it is always a good idea to trust your instincts, but on the contrary it is important to have the facts before taking any drastic action. It may just be reading into things too much, or it could be that the girl you're dating may be a player? Here we will help you find out if she is legitimate, or if she is not all that it seems.
What is a player?
Before you can understand if you are a player, we must first define exactly what a player is. This could mean a few different things, but in fact a player is a girl who plays games with your emotions and is always looking to "trade up". The games you play can vary, but it really just comes down to keep around to entertain her until he meets someone who she likes more. Some women are good at using a lot of tricks to get us men wrapped around her finger, and then we fall like a dead fish as soon as you find someone else. Players girls are often highly intelligent and adapt to you manipulate or pretend to take care of you to get what you want. He could also be secretly seeing other people while making you think that you're the one. Seeing several people at once does not automatically make her a player, just so she does not hide this fact. And 'more about the honesty and intent.
What Makes Girls Player Tick?
greatest motivation of a player girl is that she does not want to only be for a few brief moments. In addition, there is his irrational need to have a lot of male attention at all times. Typically they will have different kids interested "in orbit" around trying to conquer it. It plays together just enough to keep them around, but also acts on the sidelines as if they were "just friends."
Now that we know what a girl player is, let's take a look at some telltale signs to be on the look out for.
1- She flirts with other guys in front of you
This should be like a warning siren on a nuclear submarine. Try not to over-react and give her some benefit of the doubt. It might be more analysis of the situation and see something that is not really there. Maybe it's just being nice. But if you are sure that she really is flirting with another guy, here's what to do. Do not be an idiot, act rude or make a scene. Although she is a player, word can get around if you react badly. Above all stay calm. Just take your cell phone, keys and your dignity, get up and leave. Play it cool and just do a little 'sorry to have forgotten there is somewhere you've got to be. Try to leave gracefully and not make a scene. But let's be honest, if a girl would obviously do this in front of you, then you two do not really have much of a future together.
2- She is often late and has a lot of lame excuses
Many girls are just constantly delay or flakes. After all, looking stunning takes time, right. However, if she's getting very late, it does not appear at all or is always Rescheduling last minute with very weak apology, which is a bad sign. If his excuses just do not add up or make the scene, it might be because they are not true.
plans 3- She'll ditch you to his friends at the drop of a hat
You may have done well in advance, but then canceled on the day of your big date. Unless you have a good excuse, so I'd take this as a bad sign. Maybe another guy asked her out at the last minute so that we gave up. This is a common theme of girls players. They are often very insecure and can not bear the thought of being alone. Although not really like a guy, you keep him around as a kind of "hold over boyfriend" until they meet someone they like best. So if she breaks plans with you at the last minute to see his friends, then it probably is not that into you. In this situation, it is best to move on.
4- She introduces herself as a friend
If you have only been dating someone a short period of time, it might be normal for her to tell people that you are friends. However, she will not say things to people such as "no, we're just friends." This is the kiss of death. Despite what movies and other pop culture is led to believe, there is no escaping the friend-zone. Think of this as a social black hole from which there is very little hope of returning. If you are firmly stuck in the friend zone, it is best to just cut your losses and meet someone new. Keep in mind that a real player girl would always at least a couple of men "friend-zone" around to keep her company at all times.
5- His friends suddenly appear on your date
If you're out of what is intended to be a date, it is possible that it could happen to run into some of its girlfriends. In this situation, it is best to be kind and just go with the flow. After all, if you can win over her friends then you can increase your odds of her winning as well. On the other hand, it seems that this happens every time you guys are together could be from its design. She may have planned this as a way to avoid the two of you having to spend long time together. This could be a great sign that she just wants to be friends, but you will need more information to make that call.
There is another popular variation of this that some girls often use. If at the last minute they ask if they can bring a friend, or just show up with one that could be a bad sign. If the friend is another guy, then it's pretty much over between the two of you. She is one of only completely unaware or is actually playing with you.
6- lot of talk about other guys or ex-boyfriends
This is another warning flag to watch out for. It 'obvious that if girl speaks constantly about her ex, that may not be on him. But what if a girl constantly talking about other guys? I used to be friends with this girl we will call Shaunda. All you ever talk was all the guys she's dated, and every one of his stories began with "this guy I used to date ...". It seemed to have given a lot of guys, but never seemed to have a boyfriend. It was very attractive, so easily could have if he wanted to. Over time it became clear that it was Shaunda bit 'of a player. Always you need to have a lot of guys around her and always seemed to be looking for the next "trade-up".
7- She often needs a lot of time alone
This normally applies only if you've already been with a girl a couple of times. Whenever you are going (or attempts to make plans) he does not say anything as she is too busy and just needs a bit 'of time for herself? Then assures you that she really does not want to see you again soon. Could it be that she really does not need bit 'of time, but it could be a game that is playing. Maybe you not want to lose you completely, because she likes to have the kids around to pay attention to her. However, she does not want to actually be in a relationship with you and is just taking his time until he meets someone else.
8- always seems "too busy", flakey or do not commit to plans
This is another common makeup girl. You will want to make plans with her, but she always act as if she's just supper engaged in very non-specific, seemingly unimportant ways. It 'possible that you have a very demanding job or really has some legitimate reasons. However, this is the nature of the kinds of tricks that use girls players. They have excuses that might be legitimate, and it is very difficult to have a specific instance that you can call them out on.
9- "Call to confirm"
In my opinion, this can be the smartest trick, most cunning and diabolical use that girls player. And 'so ingenious that you almost have to admire his creativity. "What's that ... you want to see me on Thursday? I'm pretty sure I can do it, but just call me to confirm." If a girl has ever said to you when you asked her out, then you've both just been massively blown away or are put on "hold" as a backup in case nothing better comes along. What makes this creative way is that if something better comes up, has an easy out. However, she still has a chance to see if anything materialize. In any situation like this, it is important to try to take the high road. Do not be rude or act like a jerk. Instead, play it cool. Perhaps only say: "Sure, that sounds good." Then the day after his text to say that you had something to come and will not be able to see it as planed.
10- interrupts dates at the last minute
Similar to the number 3, if it breaks plans with you at the last minute (and with a very fragile excuse) that might indicate that you are a player. Could it be that she's just no interested in you dating at all. However, if she tells you that she really does not want to go out with you sometimes, so it's likely that she's just playing.
11-Mai initiates contact or dates
If you must do all the work to initiate contact or arrange dates, then it is not a good sign for that report. Imagine if one of your guy friends acted that way. You always had to call them, otherwise you never hear from them. That friendship probably would not last too long, and the same thing applies here. Given that some girls have the most antiquated ideas about the guy take the initiative. But this usually only applies at the beginning of the relationship. Once you've gone out a couple of times, it is reasonable to expect her to take some initiative in calling, texting, or who want to see you.
12- Cheesy Excuses
If you feel constantly one of the following from a girl you saw so be cautious. "My phone is dead", "sorry, I forgot our plans," "I ... busy", "maybe next time", "I'm sorry you feel that way." He could only try to give the suggestion that she is not in you, or she might be playing.
13- shows no affection
If you continue to go out with a girl it is only natural that you two would affectionate. However, if it always seems like you have to start all that could be a bad sign.
14- speaks only of itself
This really gets to the heart of what motivates a girl who enjoys playing. It 's really a matter of selfishness. She really does not care about the guys she is doing, and is really only interested in what's in it for her. If she always speaks of himself and generally seems self-absorption, which could be a bad sign for things to come.
15- do not bring you around his friends
This is a classic sign that you have been lead-in. It 'a bad sign if you've seen a girl for a while', but they never meet any of his friends. And she never put around his friends, or invites you to all social events with her friends? If the answer is no, it is because she does not want you to meet them. And 'likely that she just sees you as a material "hold-over" until someone better comes along. Similarly, it is a bad sign if she does not want to go anywhere in public with you where you could meet people who know.
The Wrap-Up
US kids have to put up with a lot in our search for love. Even when we have the best of intentions, it is possible she may not be up-and-up. As I said before, do not be paranoid and just assume that all the girls are like this. Most women out there are just honest people who do not want to meet someone. But be on the look out for the player girls. They can be rude, heartless and probably ditch in a second if something better came along. girls player usually behave this way by a deep insecurity and superficiality. However, the real reason for a girl treats you like this is that you let her. My personally dating philosophy that I try to stress is simple. No matter what happens, play it cool. Do not be a jerk hothead. Instead, if a girl is like this, just stop calling her. You can not save that relationship, but you can save your dignity. I know I've said before. There are over 6 billion people on the planet. This means that the odds of meeting someone new are pretty good.
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